For the record, I have this same issue (though I'm on the last Intel MBP 16" and iPhone 14). It's so bad that I literally try not to edit certain notes on my laptop that I want to access on my phone in the next few hours, like my daily/weekly journal. Otherwise I'll end up with a string of duplicated notes that I have to reconcile.
No, it isn't my networks. This is literally the only service that gives me this problem. I love Evernote and I've put a lot of time into it, been a paid member a long time. But the slow sync is really hurting the professional workflow.
I have also seen the notes view being faster than the home view, but forcing refresh does not always really push the updates. And really, in 2023, I feel like we shouldn't be needing to do this.